Science gives you 10 tips to turn the first date into a second

Dating someone can be difficult for both parties: fear, nervousness, anxiety… Especially on the first date. And even more so if they have met through Tinder (or another platform) and it is the first time they have seen each other in person.

Things are not going the way they want. Their body language is stiff, even if they want to show otherwise. Although they both like each other very much, this message does not reach the other. Why, if both of you are interested in continuing to date, this doesn't happen? There are some tips that you may not have thought of putting into practice.

Punctuality above all

"The good is waiting," but that does not apply to the world of dating. Being late may make you think that you are making yourself wish, that you will awaken more interest in the other, but it is not like that. According to Eharmony, social psychologists Eli Finkel and Paul Eastwick of A&M University in the United States used the modality of speed cuckold dating to show that those who wait seated are generally more attractive to others. According to these psychologists, we like best what we can get closer to. If you want your date to like you, being the one waiting for her sitting in the cafeteria will give you a head start.

Do not practice phrases

You may also have heard the advice that it is good to rehearse a few lines rather than improvise. We have to tell you that you have been lied to. If you don't want the conversation to be forced, it's best to say whatever comes to mind at the moment. A study published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences showed that ready-made phrases are not successful in the dating world, especially those that refer to the other person's appearance or are sexual innuendoes.

This yes, if you feel that they are not going to have a topic of conversation, according to an article in Lifehack, it is good advice to have the beginning of one prepared, that is, prepare a phrase that introduces an interesting topic, and then let the conversation flow on your own.

Commit to the conversation

If you don't want to be perceived as boring (who would want that?), The best thing to do is come up with interesting topics and jump right into the conversation. According to the study of the previous point, the topics of conversation that are most successful are some such as generosity, culture, physical activity and, surprisingly, wealth. Compromising means not constantly checking your phone or looking at other things going on around you. Give your date your undivided attention, and you'll be more likely to like her.

Wear your favorite red lipstick

A study from the University of Manchester showed that red lipstick attracts more attention to the face, especially from the opposite sex. For this, the researchers monitored the eye movements of 50 men who were exposed to images of women wearing different lipstick colors, and without makeup. The color red was much more successful than others, given that, on average, these men spent 7.3 seconds looking at the faces that were wearing it. If you don't like red, you can use pink lipstick, which was almost as successful, with 6.7 seconds on average.

Pay attention to body language

You've probably heard that body language plays an important role in how others perceive you. That is why, perhaps, if you are a woman, they have recommended that gesture of pulling your hair back with one hand to show your neck. Instead, try to make movements that come out more naturally, not as forced. The study that supports this was published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, which showed that the best way to show yourself to the other when you are just getting to know them is in a moderate way, with slow movements, without exaggerating the gestures, and, of course, avoid invading your personal space.

On the other hand, David Givens, director of the Center for Nonverbal Studies, tells Eharmony that we have learned to control, in some way, our body and facial expressions. To really know if the other is interested, you can pay attention to the body language of the feet, of which they will not be as aware. Inward pointing fingers can indicate innuendo and interest. If they point outwards, they will mean the opposite.

Also, the voice is important

Gordon Gallup, a psychologist at the University of Albany, had some of his students record their voices for a count of ten. There was great consensus, among those who listened to these recordings, about which voices were sensual, even though they did not have any content of this type.

In general, the deeper a man's voice is, the sexier it will turn out. However, it is not that simple for female voices. Having a wide range of tones (treble and bass) is a specifically feminine characteristic, rather than just using treble.

Imitate your date

This is quite a popular tip, and you will be surprised to learn that it is totally correct. According to Bustle, and according to a study published in the journal Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B, as humans, we are most attracted to those people who imitate our movements. Of course, do it in a subtle way so that he does not notice it, or the situation could become uncomfortable.

Order dessert for both of you

Or give your date chocolate: a study from Purdue University showed that people tend to have more romantic thoughts after eating something sugary since the brain associates these types of thoughts with the sweet taste. You may also be interested in cuckold dating sites

Don't go to the movies

Or, if they go, pick a movie that you know you won't cry with. Why? Tears apparently have a chemical compound that makes men less sexually attracted. Yes, as you hear it. This was proven by a Science Express study that was dedicated to verifying that human beings communicate through smell. I mean, the smell of tears can alienate your date, if it's a man. Therefore, save the cinema for later.

Get used to their writing

A University of Texas study found that couples with similar writing styles were more likely to stay together after a three-month period: 80% vs. 54%. If you and the person you're dating don't understand each other much through your messages, the union might not be built to last.